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I have just deactivated my FaceBook account. If anyone is interested enough to follow me here, please comment so that I can add you as a friend as nearly all my posts here are friendslocked. This is a rare public post so that anyone looking for me here can actually find me!
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My creative day worked out well again today and I now have a lovely purple sparkly glittery flared skirt hanging on the handle of my wardrobe to "settle" before I put it away. I was worrying about making a hole in the waistband, which is very narrow, for the tie to go through, but have found that it's fine without any kind of hole, I can just wrap it and it works. Probably because it's such a generous overlap. When David is back at the weekend I'll try to get him to take some pics so I can post them, but I'm delighted to have taken two days and made a pair of shorts and a skirt that I am really happy with.

Next project may well be a pinafore dress (I think the Americans call them jumpers!) - the kind of sleeveless dress that one wears over a fine polo neck sweater or a blouse anyway.

That one is going to be using a commercial pattern, but I'm expecting to have to alter it to fit.

Sometime I really need to make myself a basic bodice block and make up a fitted dress in a toile fabric ... once I have the block right I can start altering it and making different designs, but I do need to check that I have the block correct first.

I'm still looking for a course to sign up to for next term - ideally I'd prefer one that runs during the daytime, but the only one I've found so far is running on an evening. Apart from anything else I think I'm going to have to buy some pattern paper on a roll and it's SO much cheaper with student discount! Not to mention the great goodness of having a weekly reason to get my sewing stuff out.
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Yesterday I used one of the patterns I made at the Pattern Cutting with Simple Shapes course I attended last year. I made up a pair or wrap-around shorts - it's hard to imagine what they might look like, but the pattern is so easy, it's a rectangle of fabric with a U shape cut out for the body to "sit" in ... and they fold perfectly and are great for holidays. I made mine out of Liberty tana lawn (a really nice lightweight cotton fabric) and they look OK to me even though, of course, they don't actually "fit". The most obvious lack of fit is at the waist. They go on by tying - first you position the back half and tie this round your waist, then you pull the front through from between your legs and tie that on - so the bow for the back is at the front underneath the front piece, which has its bow at your back. The ties are narrow so the bows are fairly unobtrusive. The sides are well overlapped and the whole thing hangs unbelievably well. I'm delighted with how these have turned out. They seem very comfortable to wear, but I'm going to save them for my Italian holiday and will report back then after wearing them "in anger" so to speak.

Today I have so far taken my circle skirt block (also made on a Morley College course last year) and from that I have made a pattern for a wrap-around skirt, based on the half-circle, which I'm going to make up in the purple glittery cotton fabric that I found on eBay and fell in love with. I've cut out three half circles - two to go round me and one for overlap - and a long strip for the ties. Now all I have to do is brave putting it through the sewing machine. Googling has given me a lot of anxiety about the glitter coming loose and clogging up the works. I think I'm going to try using some paper between the machine and the fabric to see if that will help to keep the machine clean.

I think I'm going to have to order me some pattern cutting paper on a roll. The kind you can buy in packets is pretty rubbish and comes with creases in that are difficult to get rid of! The only problem (apart from storing the roll) is that I'm not sure I'll ever use it all up. The rolls are 250 or 300 metres long!
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While ever we (or any of our friends) are afraid to be all that we are on social networking sites like FaceBook ... while ever anyone is afraid they will be discriminated against for being who they are and openly sharing it ... while ever anyone self censors and worries about what friends might reveal about them to their other friends ...

For all these reasons and more I am proud to be an activist for social equality.

If you agree with me, post this to your journal!
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RARE PUBLIC POST

My current landline and broadband supplier is Pipex - or is it Talk-Talk? It gets a bit confusing as they seem to change hands constantly, but it's Pipex who send me bills, so we'll go with that. Our line was originally BT until we took out broadband from Bulldog (remember them?)

I want desperately to change as the service we get from Pipex is crap and very expensive. I've identified a supplier to go with - BE (http://www.bethere.co.uk) and now the fun starts.

I rang Pipex to get a MAC code (migration reference code) and they told me they were unable to provide one. Something about bundled services? I got my son/aka system admin to talk to them at this point. They did of course try to sell us a different package until my son told them in no uncertain terms that we did not want a different package we wanted to quit.

They claimed to be totally unable to help us and suggested we approach our new supplier.

I rang BE and they tested our line, found they couldn't get any info on it (not a BT line) and could go no further with it. Their suggestion is that we transfer the landline to either BT or the Post Office, and then from there we will be able to transfer it to them (BE) with no need for a MAC key.

This all seems a lot of trouble and I'm scared we will somehow end up with no internet access for an unpredictable length of time which is completely unacceptable. Or maybe we need to transfer the broadband and phone line to Post Office for a short term in order to progress?

Any wise words of advice from anyone out there on how best to sort this situation?

I'm angry as hell with Pipex as they seem to have us in some kind of lock-in which is NOT acceptable.

If there isn't any easier way out of this, is there any ombudsman or similar avenue for complaint as frankly this situation is driving me insane?

Oh, and on a brighter note, the post rapture party will be at Bi Bi Baby tonight ... and will involve lots of personal rapture with any luck, both during and after! ;-)
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Here's wishing you all the happiest of new years and all good things in 2011.

For those who are currently suffering, I hope you will recover and go on to great things in the coming year.

For those who are celebrating the best of everything right now I hope you will continue in happiness and strength, and overcome any challenges you meet in the coming year.

For those who are worrying about what the future will hold, I hope you will find the challenges less scary than you anticipate, and that you have the skills and flexibility to open a new door when an old one closes on you.

I am grateful for all the love and support of friends and partners in my life, without which I would not have survived 2010 as well as I did.

If I can help anyone else in a similar way this year, don't be afraid to let me know.
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I seem to be noticing that we are changing in the ways in which we are prepared to communicate with each other, "we" being modern privileged English-speaking human beings with internet access.

At first I noticed that people didn't write letters any more, preferring the more instant gratification of exchanging emails.

Now, however, it seems people won't even write emails, they prefer to tweet or IM.

What's brought this to my attention is the way a new member of a mailing list community I moderate is trying to interact with the membership.  She doesn't seem to understand the medium of an email mailing list and seems to want, and send, very brief, one-line communications.

I think it's a sad day when we lose the capability of stringing a few sentences together to express ourselves.

Have any of my readers anything to observe or to add to my observation on this subject?
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Text of an email I sent this morning after seeing red when eating my cornflakes:

Dear ELOP,

So - you have a passion for LGBT equality, do you? 

So why, in your advertisement in the Evening Standard of 13th December 2010 seeking Charity Trustees and General Volunteers, do you state:  "Lesbians and gay men only need apply"?

Do you have any idea how hurtful it is to bisexual women like myself to be excluded in this way?

I'd like to think it was an oversight, but, sadly, I've known too many organisations where the B and T are silent additions to their literature and the only concern is for lesbians and gay men.

You may have bisexual staff - they probably just don't tell you!

Frustratedly,

Nickie Roome


ETA - their admittedly prompt response:

Dear Nickie,

 

Thank you for your email and feedback.

 

Let me start by apologising for the hurt & frustration our advert caused you.  As an organisation we are passionate about equality and that absolutely does include bisexual and trans people along with lesbians and gay men.  We recently made the amendment to our ad due to the response we were having from heterosexual people applying to volunteer with us at the suggestion of their careers advisor that we could not accept as our constitution states that as our services are for lesbians, gay men and bisexual people they are to be delivered by lesbians, gay men and bisexual people.  Identifying lesbians and gay men in our ad was simply a clear way of preventing this response that was unfortunately limited by the space available in the newspaper.

 

I do however understand how this must have appeared and so we are reviewing this with the newspaper. However I would like to assure you that should you wish to, we would welcome your application to volunteer with us.

 

Please feel free to contact me if you would like to discuss any further.

 

Kind regards,

 

Patrick

 

 

Patrick Wolter

Lead Officer: Service Delivery

(non-clinical services)

pwolter@elop.org

 

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ELOP - East London Out Project

56/60 Grove Road

Walthamstow

London  E17 9BN

 

Tel:         020 8509 3898

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Email:    admin@elop.org

Web:     www.elop.org

 

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S N O W      

in London!

I confess I am nearly 58 years young and I still love the white stuff.  I've been out for a walk in it this morning, as it was falling, all wrapped up warm and cozy, and it was a sheer delight.

About the only thing I don't like about snow is having to shovel it.  And mercifully I haven't had to do that for years.

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What is it with dating sites? I've looked today at a few that claim to be aiming at bisexuals but on ALL of them you have to be seeking according to gender. What is it about bisexuality that these sites do not understand? For me at least, and I suspect for a few other bisexuals I know, defining your choices in seeking by gender, and by two narrow gender categories at that, is bound to annoy and indeed render the whole site unusable.

Are there any dating sites out there that *don't* make you say you are seeking either a male or a female, man or a woman, or a couple ... it seems ingrained in the consciousness of those who write these sites.

okCupid is ok as far as it goes, but I get an endless stream of straight men appearing in my "quiver" and they are pretty much guaranteed NOT to make me quiver in response, except with anger and rage at the site algorithm that keeps sending them my way. And yes, I've tried emailing the site and telling them about my frustration several times but I get no response.

Oh, and the new IC site is confusing in the extreme. I need a tutorial on how to use it, I think. Not helped by the fact that apparently some of the features don't become live on a new account for a week.

Grrrrrr
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Well, actually David's bike, but still. I'd been too nervous to try it out on the roads and so he had me drive us to Dulwich Park where there are road-wide paths and cycling is allowed. After a few wobbly attempts I was off. Practiced getting started to the point where I can do it without having to "scoot" several yards before getting my second foot onto the pedal. Not confident I could do this going uphill yet though. Practiced steering round bends and avoiding obstacles - needed an obstacle course of traffic cones, but such was not available, sadly. Still, for a first cycle in probably ten years it wasn't bad.
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I found this on alt.poly and have the OP's permission to propagate:


Love Unlimited: The Joys and Challenges of Open Relationships
Door Leonie Linssen,Stephan Wik

The Joys and Challenges of Open Relationships

208 pages paperback

Have you ever wondered whether you could share an open loving relationship
with more than one person?

Love Unlimited charts the course of twelve different partnerships as men and
women navigate monogamy, polyamory, triads, bisexuality, homosexuality, open
marriages and sexual explorations. In each case, Linssen, working as a
relationship coach, challenges singles, couples or multiples to honestly
identify their expectations, fears, jealousies, and passions in order to find
a loving dynamic that works for everyone involved.

Love Unlimited invites you to put aside taboos and ingrained notions of
romantic relationships in order to explore your own ideals and shape your own
love life.

The reader will laugh, and maybe cry, but most of all identify. You’ll
discover new insights, tools and resources to help you dare to embrace
authenticity.

Join the authors as they share the fascinating wisdom found in these stories
and in parallel practices from lesser known cultures and ancient texts, and
offer respectful, honest options for sustainable partnerships. There are
many!


The book is recently translated into English and parts are to be found here:
http://books.google.nl/books?id=gq1s3zxqPHUC&pg=PA202&lpg=PA202&dq=love+unlimited+english+leonie+linssen&source=bl&ots=kywuebWBS3&sig=CDWll4-qERuslJ-0GLmNBiQqybY&hl=nl&ei=zIc1TNWFD4qRjAeMi-zwAw&sa=X&oi=book_result&ct=result&resnum=6&ved=0CDAQ6AEwBQ#v=onepage&q&f=false

And the shortend version of that link is: http://bit.ly/bN5SwM
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May I wish all my friend who celebrate it a very Happy Thanksgiving.

I am grateful for the love and support of my many friends at this time.
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I just learned three internet acronyms from an advert for a new American TV series ... well, LOL and OMG I already knew, right, but who knew that WTF meant Why The Face? ROFLMAO
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I've been looking at bedlinens online recently - duvet covers, sheets, that kind of thing. Just placed orders this morning, and what do I find when I look in my email inbox but an email from my online grocery company, Ocado, offering me a discount with a supplier of bedlinens ... I really really hope this is just a coincidence!
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I wish this for the peoples of the world, but it is particularly vile that it isn't true in so-called developed countries.


Thanks to [personal profile] stonebender

No one should die because they cannot afford health care, and no one should go broke because they get sick. If you agree, please post this to your journal, blog etc.
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I can't seem to get through to meeble.net to look at my email.

This is not the end of the world. I guess it will wait until Monday. :-)

I am full of cold and feeling tired so haven't gone socialising this evening at all. Hopefully I'll get a decent night's sleep and feel better tomorrow.

There's been no shortage of people to push me in my wheelchair, which has given me opportunities to chat to people I otherwise might not have.

So far so good.

at BiCon

Aug. 20th, 2009 06:37 pm
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Safely arrived in Worcester - and so has my luggage now, which came on later with the car. I came along on the train so as to arrive in time for Community Day.

Internet seems to work just fine, so will update more later.
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One of the things I was aiming to do when I went part-time was to join my *local* public library (as opposed to the branch of Westminster libraries near where I work). This morning I got myself to Crofton Park Library (confess I used buses in each direction though it's less than a mile to walk!), joined up and borrowed some very light reading, which seems to be all I have the energy for at the moment. The branch is disappointingly small ... I may end up preferring to go to Catford or Lewisham branches, but I like to start with the local one - it encourages them to keep them open, if nothing else. I can always use the catalogue and the reservation system to get stuff delivered to the local branch. Politically I think it's important to use local services whenever they are provided really, and perhaps to campaign to improve them if they're really substandard? Not that I'm implying Crofton Park Library is sub-standard, but there seemed to be very little adult fiction stock and no new book display that I saw. A friend was working there this morning, to my suprise ... maybe I should have loudly asked him "Where do you keep your queer stock?"?! ;-)

I'm not feeling too bad as a result of my excursion either ... :-)
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Thanks to all my wellwishers. I was suprisingly un-nervous though a few times during my presentation my voice went a bit funny which was nerves ... but on the whole it went very well, the timing was spot on and a number of people approached me during the lunchbreak to say how much they had enjoyed it and that they had learned something new, either about themselves, or about other people. :-)
Oh and there was only one question, at the end, from one of the previous speakers ... who quoted some academic stuff and asked what I thought of the theory that all sexualities are basically cultural conditioning ... or somesuch ... that everyone is bisexual really, but conditioned by society not to express it?
My answer? I don't buy it. It would be nice to think that everyone is bisexual really, but it's in the same league as thinking that gender is socially conditioned and that free expression without social constraint would "cure" or render obsolete gender identity disorder. I don't believe that to be true either. Nature/nurture arguments. F'neh!